September 11, 2010

Where Have All The Good Men Gone?

* Statutory Warning : Contrary to the title, this post is not a feminist article!! *

What is better..... facing things head on and looking over and going through memories,places,songs or avoiding all of these things until you're totally over them? 

I was just thinking about this topic, and like a typical Libran, I had argued both sides of the case without coming to a conclusive decision! If you choose the former, people may label you as a 'masochist' who loves hurting oneself. But I don' think you're being a masochist if you face things you're not over yet. I think, you're just putting yourself through so much of self-inflicted pain, that one day you're gonna get so numb by the pain, that you won't feel it at all!! It's not easy as it sounds, and you need balls of steel to actually be able to do something like this. But, a lot of people feel this is precisely what is called 'masochistic' behaviour!!! I say, whatever!!

But, then, one my friends gave me a very solid counter-argument to this, saying that you're just helping yourself to suffer less by avoiding ice-cream while suffering from cold.... you can always get well soon by this abeyance, get strong again and then start relishing the ice-cream(s) again. A very deep philosophy put across so lucidly by my friend, Manalee!! 

Every debate, every discussion, everything is just so subjective in life! You can't just pin-point to one alternative and say, this one's the best. Because no two people are alike, and they definitely don't react the same way when faced with the same situation.(The person who's told you how stupid you were and how they'd never react the way you did to a particular situation in your life, will in all probabilities, be reacting to it in a much worse way when faced with the situation!!)  This is what makes psychology such an attractive topic to read on.... but its like Libran-ism.... no matter how much you've read, researched, thought, spoke on a the end, you never have a conclusive answer!!

I was reading HT Brunch today afternoon and the cover article it carried was men reacting to 'Where have all the good men gone' rantings of women. And, I had to read it, word to word!! It didn't have anything that we women already didn't know earlier.... except for the fact that the headline of the story still holds true!!! It had this interesting example of Draupadi and how she had five husbands... As the story goes, she wanted a husband who was intelligent, honest, strong etc etc... and asked for the same from Lord Shiva. And He, gave her a blessing that she'd have 5 husbands in her next birth... one husband fulfilling one requirement of hers....because even He couldn't make ONE man having all of the qualities!!!! I couldn't stop laughing.... I even made my Mom read it and laugh on it!!! Men say that they outnumber us in terms of population and all we need to do is just open our eyes and minds to the ones we come across! Good point, but I still say, Where have all the good men gone. I don't seem to see any! Me thinks, most of them are taken, some of them are gays....and the remaining others have turned into vampires and were-wolves! The next fad would be turning into goblins and elves!!!

And while talking about men, I have one more doubt.... and it's similar to the doubt Carrie Bradshaw had in the last episode of the second season of Sex and The City..... why do the men who've hurt you so badly..... find love so quickly again.....while you're still coming to terms with things??! That's just so not fair! First, they hurt you, break your heart, and then have another heart to play with! Don't men outnumber us in terms of we should be the ones who'd have a guy before they get a girl!!!  Me thinks, even the Karma Theory is chauvinistic!!!  (Yes, this paragraph was feminist!)

I was right in my previous article. This world is really hornier by the day! Just after I posted the post, there's this horny pigeon couple who's trying its best to gain entry into my house and lay eggs!! I mean come on, you pigeons!! You're supposed to deliver love-letters and play cupid so that some other couple can get horny.....!!! A lot of people were saying that I was being mean to the people who make-out in public saying that they don't have that much of a cash resource to be able to afford a room, and hence the public display of horniness.... I've got a good place for you guys... yeah, I love playing Cupid! Try the parking lot of Evershine Mall... it's somewhere in Malad....and the parking ticket is only 5 Rs!! And, yeah, this is not coming out of personal experience.... I had been to this mall with my friends Ajay and Manshi.... and we selected this place only so that Ajay won't have to pay too much for buying Manshi a parking ticket for her car!! It's so much fun going out with your friends...especially when they've started earning and insist on paying! I love myself for giving 'chivalry' lessons to my male friends!! Hope they can be good men for some other girls!!!

P.S : If you have any non-violent idea of me getting rid of this horny pigeon couple....please do let me know!!


Arshat Chaudhary said...

"Me thinks, even the Karma Theory is chauvinistic!!" LOL

Who care about where are all the good men gone... You just need one.. :)

Nupur said...

@ Arshat : Even one is so difficult to find!

virali said...

hi virali here,i read what had to say but how about this,get a guy and turn him into a good one ,like the one u want coz readymade good men r extinct so no use lookin for thm just train one tat is easier and spares u the despair and avoids the chance of failure in lookin for one i guess

Nupur said...

@ Virali : Hehe!!! Guess I should try this one now!!

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buckingfastard said...

all good men are gone fishing dear...wen the competitions are vampire and werewolves....seriosly wats the point!!

to be optimistic...dhoonte par to bhagwan bhi milta kya cheez hai!!

Nupur said...

@ BF : Lolsssss!!!!

ankit said...


Welcome to the pigeon hating gang!!!!!!! ask ajay about it!!!! we have discussed this topic for hours n days!!!!!!!!!

Nupur said...

@ Ankit : Oh yeah... I totally forgot about it!!! He discussed it with me as well!!!

Aamir Ayubi said...

On the contrary when a person is horny he/she notices 'horniness' around...So I think the pigeons are not horny :P
And as far as where have all the good men gone...?
They are you they are searching for the good (right) women!

Nupur said...

@ Aamir : Not necessary that horny people notice other horny people...!!! It could be that jobless people notice horny people along with other types of people and birds and animals!!