September 18, 2010

Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus

Of late, people have been accusing me of having become a feminist. Anti-men, is what people say! Feminist... yes I am to some extent. But, I'm definitely not anti-men. Wikipedia says that a feminist is a person who is for greater or equal rights for women. According to this definition then, I'm half a feminist... because I'm only for EQUAL rights....not for greater rights! That's why I say that, I'm not a feminist.... I'm just opinionated in a chauvinist world!!!! Most of the people don't know the difference between being a feminist, misoandrist (anti-men) and being opinionated, hence they use the words inter-changeably and make me wonder if I've really become an extremist!!! To these people, most of whom are guys, I'd like to say just one thing.... these three words are as different as are a notchback, a hatchback and a sedan!!! Hope this will drive home the point!!


Just to show that I'm not anti-men, here's something that I'd like to tell people. Girls actually. So listen up all you girls. Please open your mouths and tell, spell out if necessary, what you're feeling to your guy. Because they're too dumb to understand when subjected to our silent treatment. OK, jokes apart, this is something we women do, and I think it's really wrong on our part to expect someone to understand and fill in the blanks of our silence. We should start expressing exactly what we feel to the exact person. Life will be much simpler then....this is what most of my committed guy-friends have also agreed on!! And you guys, listen on.... it won't hurt your mardangi or anything if you spared a few minutes thinking about what possibly is going on in your girl's mind.... that's the least appreciation you could show your girl, someone who's leaving her 20 + year old name, life and identity to pick up yours.


The saying Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus is so very true. Men accuse women of being complicated whereas they think that they're the most un-complicated souls in the solar system and vice-versa. I think both of them are equally complicated and equally uncomplicated. To understand this, I'll put up a very easy example... Just like how men can't ever get why blur ear-rings won't go with a turquoise dress..... because these two are two different colors, women will never get why it's blasphemous to say that a car is just a car that takes you from point A to point B!! But, contrary to what I just wrote, I feel that men are a little less complicated than women.....it's like they share a 49.00009 -  50.99991 relationship!! And that is only because, men have only one hormone controlling them, which doesn't have to work in tandem with other chemicals ...unlike women.....who have have their sanity at the mercy of the co-ordinated functioning between estrogen and progesterone!! 


I think people who're reading my blog, people who are putting up with me the whole day in college and my friends and me... I think all of us have had enough of this half a feminist ways! So, no more blogs about it!!! So, you can do a victory dance..... I think I should go back to my Gujju-bashing blogs or being desperate for a boyfriend ways!! Till then, these are two of my favourite quotes from two movies that I absolutely love and would like to share it with you....


"kutte, ullu ke patthe ,you bastard, suvar ke bache, tujhe kya laga, tu mujhe chhod dega, to main zindagibhar tadapti rahungi, tadpega tu kaminey, kutte ki maut marega,aur marne ke baad hamesha ke liye nark ki aag mein jalta rahega.....teri maa ki....!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!" - Jab We Met
 Worth downing a 180 ml bottle of vodka and saying this!!! 


and the second one is a little longer......but read till the end.... it's the best dialogue I've come across anywhere.... Even the Twilight series didn't have such lines!!!!


"Girls are taught a lot of stuff growing up. If a guy punches you he likes you. Never try to trim your own bangs and someday you will meet a wonderful guy and get your very own happy ending. Every movie we see, Every story we're told implores us to wait for it, the third act twist, the unexpected declaration of love, the exception to the rule. But sometimes we're so focused on finding our happy ending we don't learn how to read the signs. How to tell from the ones who want us and the ones who don't, the ones who will stay and the ones who will leave. And maybe a happy ending doesn't include a guy, maybe... it's you, on your own, picking up the pieces and starting over, freeing yourself up for something better in the future. Maybe the happy ending is... just... moving on. Or maybe the happy ending is this, knowing after all the unreturned phone calls, broken-hearts, through the blunders and misread signals, through all the pain and embarrassment you never gave up hope."


The happy ending is that, you never gave up hope!! Tchao!!

10 comments:

smeet said...

Its like men and women can never understand each other,EVEN if they try honestly.....As you may have heard, we guys see only in 16 default colors, we have no idea of what peach or a mauve is. When the difference is sooooo huge it cant be expected to be bridged. But having said all this, dont you think its all this imperfections that make a relationship worthwhile and savory.

Nupur said...

@ Smeet : Hmm. But, when you're in love, these things don't even matter! Atleast during the honeymoon phase of the relationship!

Pavitra .... said...

Hey! Lovely post...I loved the second quote..
Its from "He's just not that into you" right? I loved the movie...It made sense in so many levels....about how stupid we can be...and you're right....Maybe just moving on and never giving up hope is the best thing you can do...

Ok....coming back to your post...I guess we are all simple and complicated at the same time.... And I completely agree....guys can never get hints....even if it smacked them on the head and danced in front of them screaming "I'm a hint". hehe...

Great post..!! :)

Nupur said...

@ Pavitra : Yes, the quote is from He;s Just Not Into You.... just forgot to mention it there!!! I love the quote because it's so true!! Even the start of the movie was so comically true!!

And you got it bang on with men!! They're just to oblivious to hints...they need everything to be spelt andd spoon fed to them.... like how their moms did for them!!
Shit, this sounded like a feminist comment!!

Arshat Chaudhary said...

It's depressing that I knew the last quote was from "He's just not that into you..."

In my defense, I saw the movie for Scarlett Johansson :)

Nupur said...

@ Arshat : It's impressive.... not depressing!!!

Samudra said...

I saw this somewhere:

"Fairy tales and porn movies are responsible for 99% of divorces."

(In case you didnt get that, its because the woman is always looking for "white knight in shining armor" and the guy is always looking for his "insatiable wh#re".)

Aamir Ayubi said...

I liked the part where you said, speak your mind out to your guy. Men do not see signs! I know. We need to be told.

Nupur said...

@ Samudra : That was a nice observation!!! I'll surely use it in my feminist tirades with my friends!!

Nupur said...

@ Aamir : Yes, that's why I've urged women to speak up!!