September 20, 2008

Love is Blind

Love is blind. And deaf . Probably mute too. Mentally handicapped as well. This is my observation... first hand as well as observed. In 12th std, I tried to decode the way guys behave/think/function in my "Y Chromosome Theory". I expected to win a Nobel Prize for the path breaking service I did to the 3 billion women on Earth, but nothing of that sort happened. So no more Nobel Peace Prize for me. Looking forward to the Nobel Prize for Literature!!!! Just hoping that the level of the Nobel Prize panel degrades when my book comes out!





OK, I'm sorry for the discourse. I wanted to talk about LOVE. When we entered teens, love was a mystery we were looking forward to decrypt. When we are exiting teens, we're still baffled by this yet unsolved mystery and have no more guts nor the ATP in our worn out cells to continue with the decryption procedure. But there's still something about love that keeps us coming back to it. Kinda analogue to cocaine. But more lethal. When we were kids, we just wanted to grow up, and fall in love, ignorant of the fact that wounded knees hurt much less than wounded (smashed/butchered/broken to nano pieces etc) hearts!!





Love is magical. No two thoughts about it.But only for the time it lasts. After it's all over... life is hell! Especially if you're one of the sentimental fools who takes 2 light years to get over people. Here's a low down on how people can fall out of love.





Falling in love is easy. Falling out takes the life out of your soul. But it's not impossible.(it's not Don na! OK, apologies for the joke!!) One needs to really want to come out of that hell hole and be mentally strong throughout the process and have a really really good set of friends who will not let you fall. This friends part is really important because they keep in check all the withdrawal symptoms and their blackmailing (read: Taking out the phone and threatening you that they'd call up your love interest and tell him/her about your feelings for him/her.... in case he/she doesn't know about it already. Trust me it works). But the most important thing is to really feel and MEAN from inside when you say that you actually had it enough and want to get over him/her. Once your resolve is strong, everything will take its own course automatically.





One thing that one does in love is to give in to what your love says. No questions asked. You just do it, even if it's hard on your self respect. The thing is that, we do it, only because there's no time nor the inclination to THINK when the thing happens!!! It just happens ..... kind of an involuntary action. The outcome of this is that we start hating ourselves after everything's over. For neglecting our self respect for a person who probably didn't even bother to care. The I-hate-myself part is the toughest. And it's not right... why hate yourself for something that you did which was right to you? You did it, and now if you are feeling bad, just chuck it out of your grey cells. After all, you can't hate yourself.... you have to live with yourself for your entire life, whereas life with that one person is as uncertain as Deepika Padukone's affairs. Love yourself, it's YOU after all!!! And just think about this... when you were in love..... how many times did you have the time to love and think about yourself.... isn't that a crime on your part not to love YOURSELF.... someone who's the only person who's the closest to you?? (Kinda abstract idea!) Just look into the mirror once and muse over the person you've become after "love" happened and the person you were before that. It'll be motivation enough!





Looking at the amount of sermons I've been giving in the past few days, I think, I can make money out of it by putting it in a book and selling it (See, I still haven't given up on my Nobel Prize dream). I've thougt of the name as well: How To Get Over and How To Get Back With People (It's also about how you can get back with your love!!!) but the thing is that you don't need to be an Einstein to figure it out. Love hampers your thinking abilities. The minute you're out of it, you'll have all the wisdom on Earth to deliver sermons on how you did it, write blog posts, penning down books etc etc...!! Yeh ishq nahi aasan.... but if you're one of the lucky ones for whom it is.... there's nothing like it!!!




They say love is blind. Agreed. But then, why is lingerie so popular????!!!! Think about it!!

15 comments:

descrying the shadows said...

i may sound pretentious or preposterous in saying that .. 1) your perception of love .. according to me is "different" from mine ..
2)
" when you were in love..... how many times did you have the time to love and think about yourself.... isn't that a crime on your part not to love YOURSELF.... someone who's the only person who's the closest to you?? (Kinda abstract idea!) Just look into the mirror once and muse over the person you've become after "love" happened and the person you were before that. It'll be motivation enough!"
I became a better person .. ...
and my relationship did fail .. though it never broke ...
honestly frm wht i have seen and wht i hv experienced .. ppl rarely differentiate between attraction and love
they easily differentiate between infatuation and love .. its when attraction comes into the picture .. they fail .. thts why u have the lingerie popularity... no i am nt saying looks dont matter in love .. infact for many tht is the starting point .. unfortunately for many it happens to be the main factor .. and then things go wrong ....

if you have time please go thru


http://sidacys.blogspot.com/2007/06/love-and-why-i-shall-never-be-out-of-it.html

Nupur said...

@Shadows: Love does motivate you to be a better person in a way.... but it also makes you change and oblivious to a lot of other things.... that's waht i wanted to highlight..... and I had written this post for people who're madly in love with a person who doesn't love them back... kinda get-over-him thing... so our views are bound to differ. But I'll always maintain that love is the most pristine feeling one can ever experience.

aanchal said...

Yeh ishq nahi aasan.... but if you're one of the lucky ones for whom it is.... there's nothing like it!!!

Nupur said...

@aanch: Haha!!! IF is a very big word my dear!!!

descrying the shadows said...

you know what the beauty of love is ??? it is not generic ... there is no one definition of it.. no one guiding principle .. to each his own ....

second .. I have raised this question often .. Is love an emotion or a relationship ???
feel free to answer...

Nupur said...

@Shadows: I guess, it's an emotion...... relationships may be ephemeral... emotions are not.

descrying the shadows said...

exactly ..what i think as well ...
thats why I will never be out of it .. :)

Arslan said...

Brilliant post! I can see you've had a lot of practice falling in and out of love, and hence the wisdom :)

Nupur said...

@ Arslan: Well, not many times... one time is enough!

Arslan said...

Yes, one time is enough. I've bookmarked this page (after reading it several times). It really is that good. :)

I wrote http://arslanaziz.blogspot.com/2009/02/love-life-even-if-you-have-no-love-life.html

Its not exactly about falling out of love, but about being happy even without it. Check it out when you've time.

Also read an old post on your MBA pursuit. Even though I ended up on being the right side (somewhat), I do feel the process is very random and unfair. Wish you luck for next time and I'll be glad if I can be of any help. :)

Nupur said...

@ arslan: I had written this one to drill the point in one of my friend;s head... didn't think it was good....!!

Arslan said...

Yes, don't we all say that! ;) (Both, that it was meant for a 'friend', and that we didn't think it was good)

The point is that there is a point to the post. And it gets conveyed. So, its good! :)

Nupur said...

@Arslan: Well, it may sound cliches but, it was for a friend...which came from personal experience...just wanted her to know, there's someone who's been there done that..

And I don't take myself seriously as a writer! So I think half my stuff is crap!

Arslan said...

Ok, as long as you're admitting you're speaking from personal experience, then its fine. I thought you meant that you've realized all this from a friend's experience. I would be highly skeptical of that.

And at least for this post, it wasn't as much praise for the 'writing style' as it was for the wisdom in the content.

And I don't get why you're so reluctant to accept a little praise! :) You're good, deal with it! :)

And I like how this is turning into a chat! :P

Nupur said...

@ Arslan: Yeah, this does come from personal experience...maybe that's why it makes sense...!